People expect so much from one another. We all want to be respected, understood and tolerated for our good and bad choices. However, when was the last time we asked ourselves if we’re treating others as we would like to be treated? This is a lesson I find myself constantly repeating to my kids.
Making friends today seems harder than it used to be. Do you find people to be less approachable or more introverted if you will? Is it because they find it difficult to put themselves out there only to be casually dismissed? Or is it that they just can’t be bothered with that kind of dedication?
When you’re a kid in school you discover really quickly how cliques form and how it feels to be excluded from the ever popular “cool kids”. You look forward to a time when adults won’t treat each other that way and therefore be more open to forming bonds. Well, that’s not always the case. On many occasions I’ve spoken to several women complaining about the same thing. “Why can’t I make friends?” The sad truth is that they can think of several casual acquaintances but when they’re going through something tough and just need someone to be there for them they find themselves feeling very alone, leaving them feeling less than confident.
I can see how someone may feel left out with or without reason. They can feel judged with or without a word being uttered. We’ve all been there at one time or another. Now, it’s easy enough to wallow in our own thoughts, but in actuality it’s making things all the harder to deal with. A problem isn’t a problem until you make it one.
I want to challenge you today to reflect on the kind of friend you are to others and meditate on the words found in Luke 6:31 And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.