Let Your Written Words Be Gracious

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For the longest time I have always loved writing.  Since I was twelve I can remember loving to write and most specifically writing poems and letters.

For some reason when I couldn’t communicate with someone I found that a letter said so much more and with so much feeling, which is kind of odd since you’re not actually face to face and in person.

But there’s something non-pressure filled about having a letter in front of you rather than the actual person.

Because when you’re reading the letter you’re just taking in the information,

…there’s no prejudgment, there’s no one waiting or watching your face for expressions or reactions.  No one’s there to interrupt with their take on it, no quick knee jerk reactions.

It’s an easier way to take in the situation whether it’s a conflict, sharing faith or just feelings that need to be felt.

Don’t get me wrong I’m not suggesting avoidance.

I’m merely presenting a way to deal with someone that may not be in a place where they’re able to express themselves or want to listen.

Maybe it’s because they’ve been through a bad situation in the past where they felt judged or weren’t given the time of day so they tend to react too quickly before listening.

“Shoot first ask questions later” kind of mentality.

Or maybe you yourself have difficulty expressing your emotions or sharing your faith with that particularly closed off person.

A well thought out letter may be the way to conquer that.

{{Just tell yourself that you’ll never send it and your feelings might surface easier}}.

In the situation of conflict, having a letter in front of them lends the opportunity to read it and take in the information without being interrupted. They don’t have to feel like they need to defend themselves because no one is there waiting.

Obviously you’re going to use kind words.  Your words should always be encouraging and even in a bad situation make an effort to find that one good thing

…there has to be one good thing, find it then elaborate on it.

Work your way through the conflict and how it makes YOU feel and not so much how they made you feel because that’s just a blame tactic.  You don’t want to go there.

If you have trouble communicating maybe you could use the time writing to try and express yourself better.  Just don’t let opportunities slip by.

So, next time you have a situation where you’re having difficulty communicating, try writing a letter.

 It might liberate you, it might get it off your chest but most importantly it might just work things out.

2 Peter 3:1

Dear friends, this is now my second letter to you. I have written both of them as reminders to stimulate you to wholesome thinking.

Colossians 4:6 

Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.


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4 thoughts on “Let Your Written Words Be Gracious

  1. Good advice. I’ve definitely turned to letters when I’ve needed to say something encouraging or hard. I love that the person can take in the information without an immediate need to respond. I do think that some letters require a follow up face to face, but perhaps once the hardest part of broaching has come to pass.

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    • Exactly my feeling…the hardest part is opening the door without hindrance than the face to face will be a bit less confrontational. Thanks for your thoughts and for dropping by. 🙂


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