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Broken But Not Forgotten

 

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She was so bubbly during dinner time. Ate her food so quickly in order to make it on time to church for her usual Wednesday night youth group bible study.  A few hours later when it was over, her mom pulled into the church parking lot to pick her up. She opened the car door to take a seat and immediately her mother noticed that there was something different.  Something heavy in the air. Nothing bubbly about it. Not wanting to be intrusive, her mom casually asked how her night went, to which she answered a short  CeliArt © 2015 @Time2Refuel ™  Mom pressed a bit more to discuss the topic they had studied that night and quickly moved on to ask who she had been “hanging out” with.  The answer was pained, abrupt and disjointed.  Leading her mom to believe that the heavy feeling she felt was not just her imagination but rather in her daughter’s demeanor. Point blank her mom asked, “Are you okay?”
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The truth…she was tired.  Tired of being ignored.  Later on that night she let her mother into the truth of the matter.

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Her bubbly demeanor was burst

Can you relate? What do you do when your teen feels pushed aside, forgotten or left out?  My heart breaks every time I think about what she must have felt.  As an adult I’ve experienced that sensation of being left out, not being able to connect with those that we’d like to be friends with and the pain that goes with it. Imagine how much more devastating to a teenaged girl. I can see how that could happen to me because I was quite shy.  This young girl however is extremely outgoing, involved in her church and always willing to help a hand. All the adults rave about her.  You couldn’t ask for a sweeter girl. So why do kids her age not seek her out or include her. The saddest part is that this girl has been battling this issue quietly for several years now.  She confessed to her mother that she even opened up about it during a bible study one night last year.  She told them she felt left out and how she would really like to feel included, like part of the group.  Do you know that not one girl approached her afterward.  Poor thing was so disillusioned.  It just doesn’t make sense.  If anyone has some insight I’d love to pass it on.

As a parent our first instinct would be to protect our child’s heart.  It’s so easy to get caught up in the hurt which quickly turns into defensive anger.  What do you do when they get angry because they just can’t deal with it anymore?

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Take this opportunity to speak to them about how God wants them to trust Him completely and that sometimes we place too much emphasis on the wrong things.  How they shouldn’t let circumstances change who they are but rather allow God to mold them into who He knows they can be.

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“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”―

C.S. LewisThe Four Loves

I’m praying for God to heal this girls wounded heart and send her some very special, close friends.  That He in turn stir their hearts to seek her out, forming a bond created by His power. That she not allow anger in but rather cast it out in the name of Jesus and let down her walls in order to truly, freely trust that God is in control. 

Though she may feel broken, she is not forgotten

Will you please join me in praying for this young lady that so desperately wants to connect? Also for her mother who is heartbroken for her daughter and probably won’t be getting much sleep tonight. If so please show your support by leaving your prayers and words of encouragement in the comments.CeliArt © 2015 @Time2Refuel ™

 

 

 

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My Past Is Always in My Present

In you

I see myself as we navigate our crazy, messy motherhood’s

With you

I cry and vent about all the struggles that we endure

In you

I trust to listen and not to ever judge

With you

I Laugh and know that I can always be myself

In you

I find a heart to trust that never holds on to grudges

With you

I voice my fears and doubts finding your compassion

In you

I value the comfort that helps to keep me grounded

With you

I have a past that is always in my present

In you

I’m blessed to find solidarity and reassurance

With you

I’m reminded to have faith and trust God has something more

In you

I have a best friend that always makes me feel normal

With you

I can confidently share any whisper

I am certain of all this

And I know

Because…

You are my sister

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Life has been crazy, good and painful at times but I’m so very grateful that I have you to share it all with.

I am blessed that you have been beside me since birth

you are

from my past

and

always in my present.

“Say you are my sister, that it may go well with me because of you, and that my life may be spared for your sake.”

Genesis 12:13

Be it for a season or a lifetime

Be grateful for the women that God places in your lives, in your paths and in your hearts

She is more precious than rubies;
nothing you desire can compare with her.”

Proverbs 3:15

Today I’m happy to be linking up with the beautiful women at;

 Modest MomMy Joy Filled LifePurposeful Faith Cheerleading

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Will the “Real” People Please Stand Up…

She saw each new encounter as an opportunity to find a real friend.  Today was no exception…as she walked through her son’s school parking lot and scanned the faces there was nothing familiar to quell her anxiety.

Though friendship was something she sought out no one seemed too receptive.  Wall after wall kept going up with each conversation.

Why is it so hard to find a “real “person these days? Someone willing to engage.

At the close of the day, when volunteering was done she found herself in deep thought.

“What is it about me that people just don’t let me in?”  “Am I that different from them?” “Are they just stand-offish or is it me?” Anxiety suddenly turns into self doubt and self doubt into loneliness.

There are various kinds of people in this world with all different types of needs.  Don’t let others lack of interest, rudeness or just plain apathy drive you to conform to who they are.  The focus should be on the only true friend that will always be there for you.  The one you can always count on.The one who will always be real with you.

Continue to follow your heart as long as your heart is really following Jesus.

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I see Christ’s love all around us…even capture it in my pictures.

One who loves a pure heart and who speaks with grace will have the king for a friend.

Proverbs 22:11

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Garbage In, Garbage Out…

Today’s music has been inundated with foul language, inappropriate and irresponsible behavior. As a parent I make it a point to keep my kids tuned in to Christian music and clean, innocent secular tunes as well. I know it can be challenging because these days kids are basically seeing, listening and doing things that are not age appropriate and there parents seem to have no issues with it. Obviously all parents have the right to do as they wish when it comes to rearing their children. However, I can’t help but wonder how they convince themselves that it’s okay or worse yet have no idea of what it is that their kids are listening to or even doing. Why is that? It’s frustrating when you send your child to school and he comes home singing “Thrift Shop” or some other ill-conceived song because their friends played it for them. Why are they even producing these songs? What are they trying to promote? The same goes for movies and books, but I’ll stick to music this time.

Though I am only one, I choose to boycott those types of lyrics. I refuse to succumb to these morally devoid songs. The saddest part is that these same songs that are promoting drugs, premarital relations and illicit behavior are becoming more and more popular. People are obviously listening to and buying this music. How can that be? We need to be more involved with our kids, set higher standards.  The old adage “Garbage In, Garbage Out” still rings true. We need to set examples and steer them clear of these types of influences and start supplying them with better alternatives.

I want to start sharing the music that has influenced my kids in a positive way. I also want to encourage you to share any and all good music suggestions.  As parents we are assigned the great privilege of guiding our children onto paths that will lead to success. Let’s work together to offer our kids something better.

6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

Here is a video of my daughters favorite singer, Jamie Grace. I think it’s simply beautiful. Let me know what you think.

*You have your own favorites? Please feel free to comment and leave your song suggestions.

#Time2Refuel

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Treasures of the Heart

I’m so excited to say that I was just recently encouraged to write a short story about my journey into motherhood for possible publication in a pro-life project benefiting a women’s health clinic with the Gabriel Network, in Baltimore, Maryland.  The project was created to encourage young women to choose life for their child, regardless of their circumstances.  I’m so flattered to be even a small part of such a meaningful endeavor.  What could be more important than encouraging the preservation of life.

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.” Psalm 139:13

My submission is presently being considered for publication with CausePub.com in Jillian Amodio’s book “New Life Within”.  I say “considered” because the final stories chosen will be determined by votes. The more votes I get the better my chances of being published. So if you are willing, I’d love it if you would read my story and if you like it, I’d be honored if you would vote for my story and ask a few of your friends to do so as well.  And perhaps they’ll tell two friends…and they’ll tell two friends…and so on and so on.

Please click here or on the title to read and vote for my story Treasures of the Heart“.

You can also click here to learn more about “The New Life Within” project and how to support it.

Btw: If you would be so kind as to check out my good friend Gail Centeno’s story  Not the Nanny” as well that would be amazing.  Why?  Because if it weren’t for her I wouldn’t even be involved in this project but just mostly because she’s pretty awesome.

Thanks and remember…every vote counts.

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Wherefore art thou friends?

O Friends, friends wherefore art thou friends? Deny thy cell phone and refuse thy text; or, if thou wilt not, be but sworn my bestie, and I’ll no longer be an acquaintance.

I’m using this picture not so much because it’s perfectly suited for this post but rather because I found this sign placed on a fence and just had to take the picture. Me likey!

What is it with people these days?  Is it just me or is it really hard to find a friend.  Oh sure you can talk to just about anyone but that does not a friend make.  When you think about the friends you’ve made in your life which ones are still around?  All, most, some, a few or maybe just a couple?  I can honestly say that friends are hard to come by.  Let me clarify by explaining what I consider to be a friend.  A friend should be someone that you can trust and count on.  Someone that is loyal and dependable. You feel comfortable around them and can be yourself not worrying about being judged or misunderstood.    Sometimes I could just kick myself for feeling like a middle schooler again when I try to get acquainted with someone to find they aren’t really interested.  I guess their friend card is all full.  I try not to get sour about it and I just move on.  Prayer helps get me through because I know that God wants what’s best for me so I decide that He has better plans laid ahead.  I have to admit though that I often think to myself…”hey, I’m a fun person, loving and giving.  Why do I have such a difficult time making friends??”  Did I mention humble? I should definitely put that on the list. 

I don’t want to sound like a downer I just truly wonder about people sometimes.  I mean I’ve gotten ignored or forgotten more times than I care to mention. That sounds pretty pitiful doesn’t it? Phew what’s up wit dat?  Really people, is it just me being a baby or are real friends just hard to find? Maybe I should consider starting a campaign. How do these slogans sound?

”Be my friend and I’ll be loyal to the end.”

“Hang with me and best friends will always be.”

“If you’re my friend you’ll never leave the house with lipstick on your teeth”

I know they stink but they make good points wouldn’t you say?  Okay so I’m mostly joking but friends are really important to me and are truly hard to find.  So next time you come across someone that’s trying to strike up a conversation with you…throw them a bone and “conversimacate” right back. You’ll be doing a great service to the person who may just need an ear to listen and to yourself because you never know…that just might be the best friend you never knew you’d have.

#Time2Refuel

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Your Song

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You’re beautiful in every way

Your heart shines through in all you say

Do they see the spark that flies

Each time you dive into their lives?

You share a laugh that fills the room

A smile so bright and strong

Unique is your note

Sweetest sound of them all

Never stop singing your song