Well…as sad as it sounds and as quickly as it came school is just around the corner (pause as my kids groan and moan in disgust). Time just flew by way too fast. I had so many plans and followed through on so few because my children had alternate ideas. It’s all good though, I mean it’s their summer break and they should do stuff that they want to do or not do. So we lounged around alot, saw a few new movies, had some sleepovers, hit the pool quite a bit and did the shopping thing.
My 15 yr old daughter lives her summers in denial, any time I tried to tell her when school was going to start she’d shoo me away and tell me she didn’t want to know. So…I didn’t mention “school” anymore. Today we were discussing our next weekend activities and she realized that school was starting in a little over a week and FREAKED out! She had a mini panic attacked as she told me she felt the stress come over her like a tidal wave. “I told you so” was all that came to mind and quickly out of my mouth. She didn’t really appreciate those words of wisdom and could only think about the TWO books she still needed to finish reading before school starts.
My 11 year old son has had a different outlook on summer not so much wanting me to avoid any school conversations. Rather than be in denial he’s been contemplating what entering Middle School will be like. Although I have been making sure that he works on his “summer learning” math prep. He hates every minute of it but I know he needs the extra help and I explain to him that this will give him confidence to do well in math this year. My words of encouragement fall deaf on his ears. All he hears is “yada, yada, yada”
Being a parent is TOUGH! Duh!!!
That fine line of wanting to be your kids friend but drawing the line at disrespect is truly difficult. Teenagers think they know all they need to and that we are just not familiar with how their world works now. We are out of date and don’t have a clue as to what’s cool and what’s not. We worry and plan too much. Luckily my kids are genuinely good at heart so I tend to not want to kill them when I focus on that attribute. However every time my daughter is sarcastic or my son tells me “I know”, I just want to scream! Well actually, I’d really just like to grab them by the shoulders and shake them uncontrollably until they realize they shouldn’t do that. That would be wrong! Satisfying…BUT WRONG! He he he
Seriously, it’s just that sometimes or rather more than often they think they know it all and view our advice as a lecture. Today my son asked how long we need to be on this budget plan to pay off our debt because he wants to go to Disney. I told him that we were close to paying it all off and he said “you always say that”. I let out a slight chuckle but quickly regained my composure to explain how all the sacrificing is paying off and that their dad is sacrificing the most out of all of us. All my son heard was…”yada, yada, yada” once again. I went through the whole payout plan thinking that it would make things clear and they could appreciate that sooner than later we would be out of debt and saving for that long overdue vacation. Words, words and more words. My daughter turned to me and said “we got it Mom, we had it in the first ten minutes”. She smiles her little sarcastic smile as she cocks her held ever so innocently. “Ok then! As long as you got it.”
Kids soooo miss the point of things sometimes. Here I thought I was sharing with them and bringing them in to understand why we do what we do but in reality they just want what they want. They don’t want to know how the doughnuts are made, they just want to eat ’em. I recognize that I talk things to death sometimes (ssshhhh, a lot of times) but I have to say that more and more I find myself wishing I’d been told certain things as a kid so I could have made better choices. Though my intention is to pass this knowledge on I have to be realistic in knowing the truth of the matter is that I’m an “adult” thinking this and rare is the kid/teen that will share that longing.
So I must decide to accept that kids think they know it all
but in reality
don’t want to know it all
they already do?
UPDATE: Later that evening my daughter was completely stressed about all things school related. She came to me in tears and needing a hug along with some reassurance. I did what any parent would when faced with this situation. I just melted and gave way to comforting her. Reminding her of how special and smart she is. How God would not give her more than she could handle and that no matter how tough it seemed right now these would be years that she would look back on fondly because we tend to forgot the bad and focus on the good. She suddenly remembered that she would be co-president of the Bible Club at school this year and was instantly excited.
Thank you Lord for the ray of sunshine in the mist of her storm.
he is like the light of morning at sunrise on a cloudless morning, like the brightness after rain that brings grass from the earth. 2 Samuel 23:4
Btw…we decided together that next summer there would be no denial. We’ll see… #LoveMyKids